It’s easy to look over your shoulder and reminiscence on why things don’t work out, bundle up a decision or two and label it as a bad decision. But, if I reflect carefully on when things didn’t go to plan, what was apparent to me is that they were ‘almost’ times.
They were ‘almost’ times, because an opportunity that was there didn’t materialise at a single point in life. We only realised when the pendulum swung not in our favour and further away from our version of success. But was it really the worst thing in the world?
We are visionaries throwing multiple darts to hit a target.
Even though our decisions are self-inflicted, there is no solace assuming we would have been happier if we had drawn another card and subjected ourselves to an alternative outcome. No one knows, and there is always more than one version of success.
It’s true that decisions are made in the essence of timing, perspective and accountability.
Timing is powerful because it can urge us to act quickly or not at all. Perspective give us the ability stand on the spectrum of possibilities and evaluate all things carefully in light of what we think we know and accountability determines what challenges and risks we are willing to accept.
And so, when you amalgamate these factors and score your decision somewhere in the lower echelons of the ‘good vs bad’ and ‘success vs failure’ matrix, there is no way of being happy.
It gives me great sadness to see humans overlay this brash and basic taxonomy that serves no real constructive purpose. Arguably, if you figured out what you mucked up last time you can avoid making the mistake again, but then again it doesn’t really work like that. This methodology assaults any real chance to think about the ‘present’ as success. To take what’s yours and to think — life is beautiful.